the AFTERMATH
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Within the first 100 days of its launch, this site has attracted over 600 unique visitors and nearly 2,000 page views from 700 visits! This is a response I never anticipated, and I am truly humbled. When I first had the idea to write, all I wanted was to report what I had gone through in a heart-to-heart, word-for-word, and utterly honest manner. I also wanted to avoid over- or under-explaining any parts of the story, or having to repeat myself to friends who had heard it before.I always encourage others to keep an open mind and listen to both sides of a story. I genuinely wanted to see things from Con’s side; in fact, I did that for over 40 months, trying to be understanding and to trust him.have made more than enough excuses for him and listened tirelessly to his excuses, his sadness, and his reasons. In return, he gave me not just hatred, but also a landfill of lies piled on top of more lies. he sad thing is he actually believes the stories he told me and others were true, completely omitting the fact that he was under the influence of sex and drugs—a major element that caused the deterioration of his job and his relationships with many people. The drugs effectively induced him to become a sociopath.
It has been very hard on me; a strenuous year, I must say. I struggled with self-blame, stupidity, shame, anger, and self-doubt every other minute. I was hoping that writing my heart out would help me get over this person, this saga, and what he had done to me. The nightly crying has stopped; it only happens once in a while when a certain song plays on the radio. If this 16,000-word memoir helps even ONE person to keep a clear mind, think smart, and maintain a healthy distance from this horrible, heartless person, then I can say I have done a good job.
Life is busy, with a world of information and portals on the net. The fact that you have decided to spend your precious time reading my memoir leaves me forever humble. You cannot imagine how appreciative I am. This was supposedly a short story but turned into a 16,000-word mini-novel! I am super grateful and cannot thank you enough for hearing me out and sharing my tears. Truly yours, from the bottom of my heart, I thank you.
If you have questions about any part of the story, please feel free to ask me via the Feedback section. I have all the references available upon request, including four years of SMS messages Con and I exchanged, as well as phone recordings. In fact, I will share some of the sweet things he said to me to talk me into falling for him.
If anyone, including Con, wants to question my account of becoming HIV-positive, I have proof of my HIV status and live video footage of the unprotected sex we had—each clip more than 18 minutes long—to prove I have been speaking the truth. This section is designed for all of that and to provide updates on anything I hear or how I am feeling after the saga. I just want to keep everyone informed. Most of all, I want people to understand that I am an open book. I want to shine a bright light on this dark and shady person who has been cheating and lying his entire adult life for his own benefit.
ark and shady person who had been cheating and lying all his adult life to only benefit himself.
What If God Was The Evil One?
Credit: Originally written & published by a U.S.-based Facebook user and has since been shared widely across social media. I found its perspective on the theist/atheist debate incredibly creative, insightful, and thought-provoking. It’s a very easy read, and if the movie Parasite lingered in your mind as it did in mine, I guarantee this essay…
What are traits of a sociopath?
The defining traits of a sociopath often include an inability to genuinely care for others, to feel remorse, empathy, or even authentic love. This profound emotional disconnect means they don’t experience sincere obligations toward others and are incapable of feeling guilt for any harm they cause. Some characterize sociopaths as “charming,” but this is largely…
1. Manipulative
As long as he was not the one who get affected, he has no repercussions of his action. So what he wants how he wants anything to go is the prize, in the mean time, whom he may hurt in the process does not matter to him. He would persuade, lie to manipulate to get…
Dealing a Evil’s Warning Signs
There’s nothing worse than finding out that someone you thought you could trust and willing to sacrifice almost everything you had built and throwing away everything to be with is apparently nothing like what you believed him/her to be. Exhibit A – myself!I had stopped blaming myself for not knowing because Con is skilled in…
Con Never Admits Any Mistakes When Confronted (Even the Most Horrendous Ones)
It seems like yesterday that when Con admitted he had slept with another person(s) in his 2014-15 Christmas Poland trip, which was only 1 month after he soundly promised to only hookup with those selected 5-fuckbuddy rule. He said he enjoyed it so much with Chem sex, which I thought it was just a line…
Feather Flocks Together
Unemployment and Chem Sex Together Extra Extra! Today I have met an fuckbuddy of Con, they met about 2015 early through Chem sex condomless sex. He is a filipino trainer at a gym. Back then they had each others company and spent a lot of naked time together doing drugs because they both were jobless.…
OUT of Commission
The way Con had treated me is an extreme unfortunate for me, yet he lied and turned the story around, accusing my debt collector had interrupted his worklife at Starbucks, causing him to resign due to embarasment. What a prick, even his lawyer is a prick to even believe that’s 1% true!Beside Donald Trump, Con…
Judgement Day Eve
I have named May 17 2017 as My Judgment Day! Therefore in a few hours, it will be one year anniversary of being diagnosed as HIV positive. Forever thanks to Con who had given me a gift that keeps on giving. I will always remember how he firmly denied being responsible for my infection. The…
GHOSTING
Ghosting is having someone who you believe cares about and for you, whether it be a friend or someone you are dating, disappear from contact without any explanation at all. No phone call or email, not even a text. Cold turkey! Con is definitely a ghost! Ghosting can result in feelings of being disrespected, used…
EVIDENCE ! Liar Liar Pants On Fire ! EVIDENCE !
While I was flipping through old SMS came across many cute romantic photos of us, i am working on an timeline infographic. It will showcase all the corner stones and historic situation as I imagine many readers are not too clear what came after which lie he told. It will be an epic Benjamin Button…
No Negotiation! No Apology! No No No! Absolutely NO LOAN MONEY Back!
For the last three weeks I have been communicating with one of Con’s ex from the early 2000s. Let’s name him Tam. Super nice guy living happily away from Poland have a quieter life. He was the first Con had infected before he even found out his own positive status. They found out together. As…
Compulsive Pathological Lies Ain’t White Lies
Welcome to the Club, Con! He proclaimed on Facebook that he was “clowned on social media” after contacting my peers. Poor Con—always trying to elevate himself, yet in reality, a clown makes more money than he does. If he’s suggesting that my friends and I are some kind of circus, loud and unapologetically happy, then…
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the Epitome of a Sociopath’s Evil Atrocious Game 